7 People You Must Absolutely Avoid, If You Want To Be Great.

These are people who will kill your dreams and make you end up like themselves. The kind of people you relate with is what you become. As we behold, we become. The kinds of people you must avoid absolutely, if you want to be great are:

  1. Gossips

They are people who talk about other people negatively behind their backs. They may start subtle like they are concerned. “Have you seen this person, she is still single. Did you see the hairstyle she has on now?” And later begin to say something negative about them. What you should do is to stop them and ask if they have shared the concern with the particular friend. If their answer is yes, then tell them, “That solves it. I am not sure what you want me to do, but I don’t want to get involved in this.” And if their answer is no, tell them to tell the person. This will discourage them from going on with the topic.

  1. Jealous/ Envious People

They always want to be in your shoes like, wanting to have your husband, job, children and they don’t like the fact that those things are happening to you. These people are very dangerous. How would you know them? You will know them by the way they make you feel. They always try to underplay your achievements. They intentionally devalue the things that you value. They see the dot on your plain sheet, never seeing the plain sheet around it. They make you feel inadequate and make you feel like what you have is nothing. Those kind of people are not the ones you want to have around you. Stay away from them as much as possible.

  1.  Time Wasters

You know that time is a respecter of no one. Everybody has 24 hours. The things you do with your time will determine how productive you are. Time wasters are completely not aware of time. They sleep too much, they talk too much waste time jesting unnecessarily, they watch TV like their life depends on it. Those who are on TV don’t watch TV themselves.

Be particular about those you share your time with. If you have those who call you and always having endless gist, end the call by simply saying “I will talk to you later” .That way you are putting yourself on a fix and becoming responsible for who reach out first. If the person is physically around you, practically get up and get to doing something.

  1.  Over-sensitive People

They play the victim always. Say one thing and they will misinterpret you. They are always picky and oversensitive. Always crying and waiting for you to apologize. If they are people that can’t be avoided, please reduce your contact session with them. The truth is that we all go through pain. Pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice and if anyone chooses to suffer through their pain, you don’t need to be part of it.

  1. Excuse Makers

People who are always unenthusiastic. They have a reason for not doing what they should. Always broke, tired. With them, there’s always have why it cannot work. They always let you down when you need them the most, with someone or something else to blame. Everyone and everything else, except themselves is responsible for their failure. You don’t want to be around those kind of people.

  1.  Mis-educated People

They have the wrong idea as to what it takes to make you successful. They give you constructive criticisms and they themselves are yet to construct anything good in their own lives. They give you opinions on marriage when they are not even married. They give you tips on how to raise your kids when they don’t have any themselves or have raised terrible kids, they give you advice on how to dress. They are super dangerous people. They want to control you and silence your personality. You don’t need such people in your life.

  1. People who don’t learn and they won’t encourage you to learn

These people cannot pay any price to invest in themselves. When they see you making big investments in your life or business, they discourage you, talk you down and make you feel that your efforts are not worth it.

These seven kinds of people you must avoid, if your desire to succeed will become a reality.

4 People You Need To Connect With Daily If You Want To Have A Great Day (Year)

I am a learner and a doer before I become a teacher. I teach the things that I have learnt and done. This post is about how I have been able to gain momentum and reach some amazing milestones in my life in the space of months.

I believe if we can have many great days, our years will be great. It is a matter of deciding who you want to be daily. People you need to connect with daily if you want to have a great day (and consequently a great year) are;

  1.      Someone Who Inspires You.

There is a big difference between someone who motivates and someone who inspires you. Motivators talk the work, they don’t necessarily work the talk but inspirers work the talk. They are always doing something that will push you to be a better person. The person’s life exemplifies what you want to be. They might be younger or older, they might even be your friends. Personally I have met some 27 year old dudes who are making millions amazingly and it just set my head blazing. You should connect daily with someone who inspires you. Motivation is cheap but inspiration is divine and it involves a lot of hard work. When you have such people around you, your life can’t be the same again. They inspire you to want to reach your own greatness.

  1.      Your Mentor

This is somebody you want to be like, somebody who is living the life of your dream. It is someone who gives the psychological permission to succeed by showing you that your dreams are possible. I want to be on Forbes under 40 CEOs’ list; I want to be the richest woman in Africa -Alakija; I want to be a CEO – Ibukun Awosika; I want to be a world reformer cum nation builder – Fela Durotoye; I want to be a renowned business coach locally and internationally recognized –Steve Harris; I want to be a world brand speaker – Charles Otudo.

You need to know these people. If you don’t know them, then how do you connect with them. You need to know them and interact with them either on their post, social media handles, and you need to attend their online and offline events. I connect daily with Oprah, if it’s just to read her twitter feed, blog post. I connect daily with some of my mentors whom I have access to physically and I reach those I don’t have physical access to online.

  1.      A Mentee

Don’t ever think you are too young to have a mentee. There is something that being responsible for someone else does to your mind. It re-engineers you to think beyond yourself. It gives you the sense of being useful and purposeful. It’s amazing when someone else looks up to you. I have a list of my mentees and my joy is full when I see them succeeding. I might be watching a video on YouTube and just feels it’s good for one of them, I copy the link and send it to that person immediately.  When you meet with your mentor, you are receiving; when you connect with your mentee, you are also giving and you know what they say about givers, they never lack. When your mentee asks a question you don’t have answers to, it pushes you out there to look for answers thereby causing your own growth.

  1.      Yourself

You want to connect with yourself. There should be at least five minutes of your life daily when all you do is think about yourself. I am not saying you should worry. There is a clear difference between “thinking” and “worrying”. Thinking is the time you have to yourself evaluating your life against your goals. You are tweaking your strategies, like what and what should I do next.

For example, one of my goals for the month has four steps to it. I had done the first step and marked it successful on my board, then I started thinking about the best time to carry out the second step. Then I discovered that the ripple effect of the second step will affect the other steps, so I quickly jumped to number 4. I was able to restrategize for better results, just by connecting with myself.

I have a tool that can help you connect with yourself almost effortlessly. It’s the day planner, it will help you plan your day thoroughly, strategize, review your plans very simply and basically but I am giving it for free to everyone who buys the Millionaire or Nothing Master class DVD. Its N20,000 for this month only and its free delivery nationwide.

If you want to work with me more closely, you can connect with me on www.temiashabi.com.ng/offers

Five Things To Be Mindful Of If You Want Your 2018 To Be Greater Your 2017

  1.     PAY ATTENTION AND FOCUS ON YOUR MICRO WINGS.

It’s not every day that you get to have the mega wings, or the big wings. But when you focus well on the micro and you do plenty micro wings, I mean, you record many micro wings, it is just a matter of time, this micro wings will become mega wings. Actually, you don’t need something huge to
happen before you can say “Oh yes, I’m a success!” You just need little little
things to happen, and then before you know it, success will come upon you.

So you need to focus on the small small things, seemingly small things actually. I mean the things that could just be normal or small, those little decisions, for example: decision to go on google and search for something, decision to run a training, decision to collaborate with somebody, decision to hire somebody, decision to do an advert, decision to buy something, decision to stay up later than usual, it could be anything, those small small decisions come together to give you the macro-mega wings. And when you are able to win in small small things, it increases your courage to take on higher and bigger things, bigger events and bigger actions.

  1.                 BEWARE THAT CRITICISM WILL ALWAYS COME BUT YOU DON’T LET IT STOP YOU.

The majors of the major successful people in the world still get criticized. Sometimes I’m marveled why anyone will watch a Mill Smith video and still give it a thumb’s down on YouTube, while anyone will watch a Steve Joe’s video and still give it a thumb’s down on YouTube, while Mario Florio’s video will record any form of thumbs down. I mean, I will watch the video and I’m like “Oh my goodness! This is amazing!! Oh Jessss!!!” I will be all fired up. But when I check the comments, people will still live fowl comments. I will be like “Common, this is a great video”, but guess what, not everybody will see it that way, not everybody will like you. So you have to learn to adapt to the fact that criticism will always come because you are not perfect for everybody. Yes you are perfect in your own way right now, but you are not perfect for everybody. So don’t let people who have not constructed anything good in their lives to give you constructive criticism, and I mean that with every sense of modesty and caution. What I mean is, people can correct you, and it’s okay. Take the correction. But when people are criticizing you, which means they are beating you down with their foolishness, don’t let it. When they tell you, oh this is what they feel you have done wrong, and you know it is wrong, it is best for you to apologize. But when they criticize you, talk down at you and make you feel less than you are, that is unhealthy, and don’t allow yourself be beaten down by such foolishness. How you respond is very important. Ensure that you response keeps you very powerful. Don’t give power to that other person. Don’t give power to the person who has criticized you to make you small. Don’t allow it! Maintain your power. Maintain your posture. But always bear in mind that criticisms will always come. Don’t let it stop you.

  1.                 ALLOW YOURSELF TO GROW THROUGH YOUR JOURNEY.

This is a very personal one for me because when I was starting out as an authority online,
I had all the valid excuses. I mean I was in Law School. Law school was very hectic. I just had a baby, I didn’t have good equipment, I had ugly looking face, and my face was not smooth. I had intonation issues in my speaking (Yoruba factor). So I felt I didn’t even know much. I was like “what do I know, who will listen to me?” But guess what, I stepped out all the same, in that little self-doubt, in that fear of mine, I dared myself. I had no one cheering me up and saying “go Temi go Temi go”, no, I had no one. So in all my fears, I still stepped out,  I still moved out, I still did my live videos, I still put out my post, I still claimed to be an authority, I still shared the little I knew. I began with a video tagged “3 mistakes that house wives make” – spending it all, not having an account and not having a home business. And that video went viral. It remains my most watched video ever, clocking over 200,000 views right now.

That one was something insignificant that I felt like “Everybody should know this thing”, but guess what, I had comments, people were saying “Oh wow, thank you”, “wow, this is marvelous”, “Oh you have opened my eyes”. People’s lives were blessed watching that video. To me, I felt it was normal that people should know those things, but guess what, what was normal to me , endeared me to so many people who said I have changed their lives. So my point here is; don’t allow yourself to be perfect before you start the journey.

Don’t wait to be perfect rather allow yourself to grow through your journey.
Don’t wait to grow before starting your journey rather allow yourself to grow through your journey.

So when I began having a community, I didn’t have all the content to share. I didn’t even know what to say. I didn’t even know how I will make money from the group. But guess what, I started and I was growing. I was learning here and there and implementing. And from there I began to say “Okay, this is how this is done”. “Oh this idea works better”. “Oh this one sells more”. “Oh this is what people want to learn”. And I began to listen and I began to share content according to my audience’ questions and needs. I did not wait to have it all figured out, and I’m so happy I didn’t, because it has helped me to grow. Don’t wait to grow before starting out your journey.

  1.                  ALWAYS BE IN CHARGE.

Don’t let your emotions to decide what you will do. I remember when I was pregnant, I didn’t use to feel good, I will throw up, I was in my first trimester. My face was so rough. Ordinarily I should be ashamed of it. My nose was big, my energy level was low, my emotions was just all over the place, but I said no, I will allow myself to be in charge. So I will finish throwing up in the bathroom and I will still do my live streams. The place I was staying was ugly. I managed to have a wallpaper in Charles’ corner of the room, and nobody had an idea that that room was still my bedroom. I was sharing the same room with my son and my husband and I was pregnant. Nobody had the idea that I did not have a wardrobe that could contain my clothes. Nobody had an idea that we were staying in just one bedroom apartment, i.e. a parlor and a bedroom. But I said I was going to be in charge of my emotions, I won’t let my emotions run me and that was how I deliberately slayed in 2017. My conditions right now are not perfect but I am here choosing to be in charge. The truth is that emotions are fleeting, never permanent. Don’t make major decisions on your emotions.

  1.     YOU HAVE TO BE READY TO BE ALONE SOMETIMES IN THIS JOURNEY.
    What do I mean? I mean that you should be alone from those you expect to support you ordinarily e.g. your husband, I don’t always have my husband’s support when I am grinding or fulfilling my dreams. I was scheduled to travel to London some weeks ago, my plans were made, invitation ready but guess what He said NO, I couldn’t travel. He showed me all the valid reasons why I couldn’t travel but left to me, I would have made the trip despite those things. So I tried to make the best use of that time even though I could no longer travel, I came up with my offers, increased my fees and permitted myself to shine. I did adverts that pushed me into London market and I made the best use of that period. Always have it at the back of your mind that you wouldn’t always have the support of everybody, be ready to go alone. Don’t wait until you have everybody on your side, your parent, children, spouses- see they are not the ones with the dreams. They can’t see your vision and believe in your dreams always. They will believe you sometimes but don’t expect that always.

BE READY TO GO ALONE

3 Surest Ways​ To Make Money Online

Online business simply means leveraging on the internet to make money.

For the purpose of this post, I will be sharing with you the 3 surest ways you can make money online. They are not just theories, they are the things I have done and are working well. They include

  1. Sell your services online. This simply means you are exchanging value for money. Like someone rightly said “for you to get money means someone is parting with money. Use what you have to get what you want. What value do you currently have, what is your course of study? Whether an accountant, doctor, quantity surveyor. Start promoting it now, open a Facebook page and Facebook group and throw traffic in there. It can be free or paid but preferably paid traffic.
  2. Sell products. Selling is the ultimate way of making money online. Sell physical products such as earrings, make up, weavons, shoes, bags etc. You can sell digital products as well. This is the surest way to go. I made my first million from selling products – my e-course on “how to start data sharing business”. It could be ebook, audio or video courses. Look for products that resonate and are accessible to you, sell them on Facebook, website, Amazon, eBay etc.

Getting an ebook in your name is simple.

  • Get a topic you know you are an authority in, either you have done it successfully or you have researched or read widely.
  • Type it into a word document and export it to PDF.
  • Or go to plr.com, buy a book off the shelf, add your own mojo, change the text, change the graphics and add your company’s name. You have an ebook to your name already.

To create a video course

  • You can create video courses directly from your phones or laptop.
  • You can also do that with a tripod stand for instance if you want to cook or sew in the video. Don’t bother about getting it all perfect the first time.
  • You can do a video with a screen recorder as well. Get a laptop to do a power point, use your earpiece to record your voice over the power point​. Upload on YouTube and sell out the link. Use screencastomatic.com to cast your voice.
  1. Affiliates. You don’t need money to start up this one. If you are reading this post, then you can do it. If you know someone who has products to sell online whether digital or physical, be humble enough to ask them to let you need their affiliate. They will give you certain percentages as commission. You can become affiliates for companies like jumia, konga, jiji, etc. You can start saving from here to start up other businesses.

Now you don’t have any excuse why you shouldn’t have an online business.

6 Amazing Tips To Successfully Transition From Your Day Job To Your Own Business

I used to have a job where I earned salary and I had a boss who required that I do far more than my job description.

One day, something amazing happened. I got to the office and on the notice board was an inscription that says

“The only reason why you are permitted to come late or be absent from work is that you are dead and you are attending your funeral”.

Heck! Something in me died instantly. I felt that was the highest level of inconsideration and inhumanity. I began to think, what of emergencies, what if I was in an accident. They ain’t enough reasons not to be absent from work or even come late.

With all that happened, I began to think of how to transition successfully from that woman who was waiting for salary to come at the end of the month to becoming an entrepreneur and a business owner. I got the courage to resign after working for 3 years and 3 months.

I have heard a lot of people complain about how hard it is to transition successfully without an hitch from paid job to becoming business owners. Calm down and let’s go through this step by step.

  1. Ask yourself and come up with an answer to this question. What is the problem that I want to solve. The truth is that business is about problem solving. Based on your current abilities, skills, passion, things you do easily, what are the solutions you can give to certain problems. You have to start with something that resonates with you and can also generate some level of income.
  2. You have clearly identify the gap you are coming to fill in. This means you have to niche down. What do I mean? Let’s take for instance you want to go into catering, you will to niche down to either home delivery, Restaurant, outdoor catering, office delivery, baking. You will also have to narrow down to your target market. Ensure they are people who can pay for your services. Shine your vision and purpose, this will determine those you are serving.
  3. Set clear goals and picture yourself in that place you wish to be. Clearly ask yourself what you want to achieve. Never focus on the things you don’t like, that is recipe for disaster. Paint the picture of what you want and make it so real. Set SMART goals. Be clear on your offers and products and how much they will bring to you monthly. Plan out on how to attract and connect with your ideal clients. How would they buy from you again and again?
  4. Make decisions based on where you are going to and not where you are. Remember you want to be  an entrepreneur, start thinking like one and not the salary earner you are right now. Entrepreneurs are hard workers, risk takers, goal getters. Don’t think like salary earner, whether business flourishes or not, salary is sure. The things you do, relationships you make should take you to a place of abundantly and fulfilment. The mind is a powerful place where you have to get everything right, anything short will affect every aspect of one’s life. Make decisions from success angle. You have to be, before you can do and before you can have.
  5. Hire a team to guide you step by step. If you don’t want to strife and struggle, hire someone who has done it successfully to guide you. I am not saying you should ask for their help but hire. When the ships are down, the team you hire will show you what to do and how to do it.
  6. Build​your dream at your pace. Business is harder than working 9-5 but the difference is that you are working for yourself. All your efforts, sweat, losses and gain belongs to you. Working for someone is hard and working for yourself is hard, you have to choose your hard.  Entrepreneurship is not for everyone. If you don’t have self motivation, can do spirit, perseverance and resilience, business is not for you. Just stick to your salary job. But if you think you deserve a better life than you currently have, start practicing the above tips.

Above all become more efficient at your day job, this will help you in working your dreams.

  • Optimize your productivity, seize opportunities around you.
  • Be humble enough to learn from those who are doing what you want to do.
  • Build value packed relationships. Attend events, you need the right network for things to become a lot more easier with you.

6 Signs You Don’t Need A Coach

Heck! Business coaches are overrated! Here are 6 ways for you to know you don’t need one.

I am a business coach, no doubt about it but sometimes really, you don’t need one and the moment you need, problems start popping up here and there.

If you exhibit any of the signs below, trust me, you don’t need a business coach.

This will serve as a checklist for you to know if you will hire a business coach or not;

  1. You have full clarity about your business. This simply means that you have all the answers to all the bugging questions. You know exactly what you need to know. You know what to press, click and who to call. You know when to execute all of the above. You don’t need a business coach.
  2. You are self sufficient. This literally means that you know what to do and you can do it. What coaches do is to show you what to do and how to do it as well. Most answers that you find on Google will only show you what to do and not the how. If you don’t need anyone to show you what to do and how to do it, heck! You don’t need a coach.
  3. You find it difficult to learn from others. You are the kind who has the feeling that anyone who shows you what to do is trying to show off or the individual is forming or you feel that the individual is feeling like TOO KNOW or you feel they are just trying to grab your money. Sorry! You don’t need a coach.
  4. You find it difficult to obey life changing instructions. If all you want is that somebody is working for you instead of working with you. You don’t need a coach. The truth is that the growth in your business will reflect in your life ultimately.
  5. You are lazy and don’t enjoy doing the work. If all you want is someone who will give you a blueprint that you copy and paste without you having to the brain work. Let me quickly remind you that a coach never gets to field to play. He/she only gives instructions after he/she must have done the gingering, rigorous training at the background. Coaches don’t work for you, they work with you.
  6. You love freebies. If all you want is free information and knowledge, please stay with Google. The coaches​ didn’t knowledge free of charge. They paid their ways​ to wherever they are today, you also must be ready to pay your dues. You don’t want to use someone’s brain to grow your business free of charge. That is witchcraft.

If you exhibit or have any of the tendencies above. Don’t bother hiring a business coach.