My name is Temi Ajibewa, a mother of one and I live in Abuja.
I got married about 3 years ago but only recently moved to Abuja to be with my husband. For years and years, I had always wanted to be my own boss, and call the shots on my own life.
When I got married, I wanted to make sure that I would fulfill my life's purpose, and as a wife, I wanted to contribute to my family, to support my husband and by so doing have a big stake in the future and direction of our home.
I was always doing one business or the other. Selling one goods or the other. Running from pillar to post, being a jack of all trades, master of none until I had to pause and tell myself, "you can't continue like this, Temi".
With my degrees in English and Law, I wanted more than a job, I wanted freedom - freedom to be at home with my family especially as mine was a very young family, while still fulfilling my dreams.
The idea of resuming at a job I didn't like was just too over-whelming. I remember I used to have a boss who said the only reason I am allowed to come late to work is "if you're dead" or "attending your own funeral".
It was the first time I was hearing those words and to say I was hurt to the bones is an understatement.
But you see, despite my desires, nothing really tangible came up. I was not only a new wife, nursing a baby, but I was also in a new city, and very bored.
I couldn’t get a job just yet, and even if I could, who would take care of my baby?
Have you felt like this before?
I thought long and hard about it, everyday. It was in this state of affairs that I decided that the only way out was to...